Posted April 17, 2015 by Burnt Cork in Blog

Top 10 In-Your-Face Dating Books

Top 10 Dating Books
Top 10 Dating Books

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Top 10 In-Your-Face Dating Books

1. It’s Just a F***ing Date: Some Sort of Book About Dating: Greg Behrendt, Amiira Ruotola, Diversion Books.

The ordeals of 21st century dating, from online dating and hooking up to pulling the plug when it is not working. A fun and funny guide to dating from the New York Times best-selling authors of It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken and He’s Just Not That Into You.

Why does dating have to be so hard? It doesn’t! Stop trying to out-game the system and relax. It’s Just a Fucking Date presents the tools, not the rules, for bringing back the art of the date. The ordeals of 21st-century dating, from online dating and hooking up to pulling the plug when it isn’t working, will soon be easy to navigate. With tips to define what is and isn’t a date, how to get asked out, and setting your own dating standards, dating won’t seem old-fashioned, it will be fun. Best-selling authors Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola return to the minefield of modern relationships with this revised and updated edition.

2. Deal Breakers: When to Work On a Relationship and When to Walk Away: Dr. Bethany Marshall, Simon & Schuster.

Once we have learned to identify the deal breaker in a relationship we can empower ourselves to action. This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, “Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I’m overreacting or needy or it’s all my fault”. Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you’re doing more work than him to fix it.


3. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment: Steve Harvey, Harper Collins

The #1 New York Times bestseller from the new guru of relationship advice, Steve Harvey lets women inside the mindset of a man. He describes, for women, his concept of what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy and commitment.

4. This Is Why You’re Single: Aaron Lamont Curry, Alyssa M Curry, Plume.

This is about you, considering the possibility that you’re tripping over your own feet. Have you ever wondered why you’re single? If you are having trouble finding the right person, This Is Why You’re Single provides essential realizations while offering solutions to bring you closer to a healthy and happy relationship. It will help you realign your frame of thinking and recognize patterns or behaviors that cause relationships to fail. While marriages are on the decline, it doesn’t mean the right person isn’t out there for you. You will learn some critical lessons such as breaking the cycle of choosing the wrong person so you can attract the man or woman that is just right for you.

5. The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags: Relationship Warning Signs You Totally Spotted… But Chose to Ignore: Natasha Burton, Julie Fishman, Meagan McCrary, Adams Media.

You’ve done it before. Saw something wrong with him–whether it was suspect grooming habits or ridiculously childish behavior–but let it slide. It’s not that big of a deal. Except it totally was. You wanted to fall in love, but ended up going insane. You swore you’d never do it again. But did.

Don’t beat yourself up. In the search for love, we’ve all either blatantly ignored or completely missed red flags. Instead, smarten up. It’s time to figure out what you missed and learn how to avoid similar flagtastic fiascos in the future. If you raise your red flag awareness now, you’ll be able to greenlight a real relationship down the road.


6. Self Matters: Creating Your Life from the Inside Out: Phil McGraw, Simon & Schuster.

McGraw teaches us all how to live the lives we have always wanted but prevented ourselves from living. “If any of these “What ifs” are true in your life, then we need to talk, and through these pages, we will. First, I have some bad news, and I have some good news. The bad news is you are making the choices that have put you in this life circumstance; the good news is you are making the choices that have put you in this life circumstance. Now is the time to make the biggest choice of your life. Through Self Matters, I will help you do just that,” Dr. Phil McGraw

7. Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE: Barbara Rose, Rose Group.

Uncover the old string along programming and create authentic, thriving relationship success. In her groundbreaking book Stop Being the String Along, Barbara Rose states: “Give me ten minutes and I can tell you if you are destined to being a string along or THE ONE for the rest of your life!” Rose does this by identifying the “string along warning signs.” We all have string along messages thrown onto us that have been imprinted within our subconscious minds. It is in identifying them, and bringing them out into our conscious awareness that turns a string along into THE ONE.

8. If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever: Susan Page, Piatkus Books.

If I’m so wonderful, why am I still single? Relationship expert Susan Page asks – and answers – this puzzling question in her classic book. She helps singles sweep aside popular excuses for not finding a mate and helps identify the real reasons love may seem so hard to find. Using revealing anecdotes, case studies and quizzes, Susan reveals ten essential steps to help you define your own plan of action and change your approach to dating and love forever. Are you stuck with a dead-end lover? Learn how to say no to B.T.N (Better Than Nothing) relationships.

Are you convinced that there are no good ways to meet people? Find out why this is one of the biggest myths around and what you can do to prove it wrong. Do you want love but wonder if you might be better off alone? Learn how to identify your ‘hidden ambivalence’ and how it sabotages your search for love. Written with humour and the wisdom of experience, this thinking person’s guide to love will show how you can actively searching for a partner without doing away with romance. If you’re genuinely interested in finding the perfect love, If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? will show you the wa

9. Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate: Patti Stanger, Lisa Johnson Mandell, Simon and Schuster.

Patti Stanger’s wildly successful reality series “The Millionaire Matchmaker,” has become one of Bravo’s most successful shows ever. As a matchmaker she has been in the enviable position of having men all over the country open themselves up and reveal to her what attracted them and induced them to make lifelong commitments and what deterred them from settling down.

Now in her book, BECOME YOUR OWN MATCHMAKER: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate, Patti shares her secrets with readers, compiling her best tried and tested advice to help women of all ages and backgrounds learn to become their own matchmaker and find the man of their dreams in less than a year. Her pointers and advice are easy and accessible, and will enable all women to find their own perfect match. Patti pledges if you follow her advice and commit to this program, within a year you’ll be walking down the aisle with Mr. Right For You.

10. Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships: Henry Cloud, John Townsend, Zondervan.

How to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Rules for Romance That Can Help You Find the Love of Your Life

Between singleness and marriage lies the journey of dating. Want to make your road as smooth as possible? Set and maintain healthy boundaries–boundaries that will help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control.

If many of your dating experiences have been difficult, Boundaries in Dating could revolutionize the way you handle relationships. Even if you’re doing well, the insights you’ll gain from this much-needed book can help you fine-tune or even completely readjust important areas of your dating life.

Written by the authors of the bestselling book Boundaries, Boundaries in Dating is your road map to the kind of enjoyable, rewarding dating that can take you from weekends alone to a lifetime with the soul mate you’ve longed for.